Sure, do you also belong to the people who don’t believe in themselves enough? That’s a shame. It doesn’t benefit you or others. We’ll tell you why and how to recognize self-underestimation right away.
Of course, people who overestimate themselves can be unpleasant and can fall pretty hard. But let’s be honest: Strong self-underestimation isn’t much better. Those who drastically underestimate themselves usually not only deny themselves the opportunity to unfold and live freely and unburdened, but they also withhold something from their environment that would actually be enriching, what they are on this Earth for, and what only they can give to others – their unique, irreplaceable contribution.
Therefore, in reality – sorry to say this so bluntly – it’s selfish to consider oneself unimportant and not do anything to overcome self-underestimation. So, if you recognize these things in yourself, it’s high time to work on your self-perception and self-worth.
01. You ask almost none of your questions
Asking questions? Not really your thing! Just because you didn’t catch something, you’d never hold up the whole operation or bother others with something that interests you, right? Never! What you wonder about, you rarely consider important enough to share with others.
But now we have a question for you: How often have you observed someone else asking exactly what you refrained from asking and thereby doing you and others a favor? Exactly!
02. Your goals are not particularly ambitious
So, what do you want to achieve in your life? Whatever happens? Not burden anyone? Well, that sounds like you don’t believe in yourself much. But let’s be honest: don’t you admire others for their courage and ambitions, even when they sometimes fail?
03. You don’t believe people when they say they love you or mean their praise
Sure, you sometimes receive positive feedback, and there are some people who enjoy spending time with you and apparently love you. But people make mistakes – and you always expect that one day you’ll be exposed, and everyone will see who you really are. Hm. If you want to make yourself small, okay. But maybe you should start trusting others and taking them more seriously?!
04. You downplay your feelings
Not a big deal! I’ll manage! Phrases like these are part of your standard repertoire when you have problems or don’t feel well. Yes, not burdening anyone is the motto of your life.
But don’t you also find it nice when you can take care of someone you love? And have the feeling of being needed? You might want to think about it…
05. If something succeeds, it’s mostly luck
You understand that you’re not the biggest loser under the sun, but you mostly attribute it to luck. For example, you can’t help being reasonably clever and having a talent or two. So, there’s no reason to be proud of yourself.
Okay, everyone just has luck when things work out for them. Or do you actually admire other people for what they achieve with their abilities? Why do you think they can be proud of themselves, but not you?
06. You usually refer to others
“He thinks,” “she said,” and “it is assumed”… it’s convenient to refer to others, especially when you feel like you have nothing important to say. The only problem is that by doing this, you cheat the world out of a unique perception, position, and perspective that nobody else can provide: YOURS!
07. You shy away from challenges
Taking responsibility, volunteering for special tasks – when it’s time for volunteers to step forward, you take a step back. Because you assume that others will do better than you anyway. But you do know that everyone else also learns from mistakes and failures and grows from challenges, right?! If so, it’s, of course, your prerogative to decline your chance…
08. You almost never give feedback
“Collaboration could have gone better if…”, “Wow, you have a great figure!”, “You are definitely on the wrong track!” – you think such things but don’t say them. After all, who cares about your feedback and opinion? In most cases, it’s probably not particularly original and the person is likely already aware of it. Ah, okay. But even if: Aren’t you usually grateful when others share their views with you, even if it’s just to confirm your own thoughts?
